I love being a wahine!

And I feel very fortunate to have been born in a time when wāhine had so many opportunities and choices that my own mother never had.

Yet of all the barriers that wāhine still faces, one of the biggest is a lack of confidence and belief in our own worth.

Yes, we are wāhine and we rock!

But there are plenty of days we spend beating ourselves up, talking ourselves down and apologizing for our opinions and questioning the value we bring to decision-making tables.

We work hard.

We do a great job keeping all the plates spinning and scaling the high bars we set for ourselves.

Yet for many wāhine, it’s never enough.

No matter how much we squeeze into a 24-hour period, we still feel like we’re falling short on some measure; that we’re just not enough.

If only we were more organized, more disciplined, more assertive, more strategic, more sure of ourselves – then maybe we’d reach the top and make the mark we know we were born to make.

That little voice in our heads just doesn’t let up, continually criticizing what we didn’t do, what we haven’t yet done and what we haven’t done “well enough.”

Wāhine I work with often share their struggle with “imposter syndrome”, feeling unworthy or unsure of their ability.

A lot of my time is spent coaching and mentoring wāhine about confidence and courage and taking action.

We can’t wait until we feel brave to put our hand up for a bigger role, to ask for a promotion or voice an opinion others may disagree with.

We have to take action, even in the midst of our fears and misgivings that doing so may result in disapproval, rejection or outright failure.

Of course, it’s not just wāhine that struggle with self-doubt.

Tāne do as well.

However, in my experience, wāhine tend to doubt themselves more and back themselves less than tāne.

And it’s why we must consciously decide to step into our power and dare to do more than we think we’re capable of doing.

True leadership begins on the inside.

Changing the world around us begins with changing the world within us.

So, if you want to learn some practical steps on how to claim your personal power, build your confidence, banish your doubts and make your mark then register here for the 3rd iWahine Leadership Hui.

At the hui, I will share with you a self-coaching model that will help you deal with all that chatter in your head as well as some practices you can do to build your confidence.


In the meantime, here are 10 things you can do right now to claim your personal power:

  1. Ask for what you want.
  2. Say no.
  3. Own your worth.
  4. Pushback.
  5. Stop apologising for your opinion.
  6. Be a daredevil.
  7. Ditch the guilt.
  8. Expand your circle.
  9. Change your story.
  10. Risk more rejection.


Try them and let me know how it goes.


Noho ora mai, nā